Today, Lamis Jarrar died from cancer. My adjustment to new life here in the US was made possible by people like Lamis. I came here to the US in 1983: it was my first time ever. My childhood friend, Basim hosted me and showed me around town (in Washington, DC). And he knew the place better than anybody, although I still blame him for introducing me to Houston's restaurant (it is not there anymore, is it?). And then there was a group of Arab female friends (Lamis, Lama, Lina, Karma, Lana, Layla, Zeina (for a while), and Zubayda) in Washington, DC who formed what became a new family for me, without exaggeration. So much time we spent around Dupont Circle. That is one reason why my adjustment to life in the US was made much easier (of course there were others in Washington, DC too: `Imad, Jawad, Kathy, Wendy, Mary, Mirvat, etc). Lamis was a Palestinian from Acre: and Tyre and Acre were historically twin cities. People from Tyre used to go to Acre and Haifa much more than they went to Beirut, old timers from Tyre would tell me. I came to the US thinking that I already was a feminist male: Lamis made me quickly realize that I still have a very long way to go (and I still do). Lamis also helped in guiding me toward gender neutral language: I remember one time when I used "girl" to refer to one of my college friends. Lamis gave me a strong lecture; and it stayed with me, and I never used it again. And when I correct my students' language, I often remember Lamis. Initially, I had some conflict with Lamis: I felt that she was not sufficiently angry as a Palestinian, that she believed too much in dialogue--and I am not a dialogue guy when it comes to resistance to occupation and colonization. But Lamis was her own person. I did not stay in touch with Lamis over the years: and I felt guilty about it. I left Washington, DC and came to California, and started a new life. I saw Lamis 3 years ago: she came to a talk I gave: she looked good, although she was already afflicted with cancer. She was a psychotherapist and she was so good at it, from what I hear. Will Lamis return to Acre?